Author: Jennifer Sien

“Approval is a necessary component of self-esteem. It becomes a problem only when we give up our true self to find it. Then approval-seeking works against us.”- David Richo, How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving

“Once we realize that the wish for love and approval is a universal motivator, we can begin to dance with the flow of love by helping others to meet that need through their connections with us. And as we help others to meet those needs by being with us, the positive flow of giving Love comes back to us.”- Perry Wood, Secrets of the People Whisperer

“When you are your own best friend, you don’t endlessly seek out relationships, friendships, and validation from the wrong sources because you realize that the only approval and validation you need is your own.”- Mandy Hale, The Single Woman: Life, Love, and a Dash of Sass

“Don’t seek approval. This may be the toughest suggestion for you to follow — and the most important. Whether you’re a teenager seeking approval from your peers, a middle-aged parent seeking the approval of your kids, or a man or woman seeking the approval of a partner, it all amounts to the same thing. You’re giving your personal power away every time you seek validation from someone else for who you are.” – Trish MacGregor,  Soulmate Astrology

“The conformist is filled with the need for approval. He can never get enough. He runs from one person to another seeking compliments and endorsements for his behavior and actions. As a child, he turned to parents and teachers; when he started to work, to his boss and fellow workers; in marriage, he turned to his mate. He must always have someone around to pat him on the head and tell him he is doing a good job. This bolsters up his poor self-esteem.”- Robert Anthony, The Ultimate Secrets of Total Self-Confidence

“The people who receive the most approval in life are the ones who care the least about it–so technically, if you want the approval of others, you need to stop caring about it.”- Wayne W. Dyer, Your Ultimate Calling

“What the superior man seeks is in himself; what the small man seeks is in others.”- Confucius, Wisdom of Confucius

“You don’t attract narcissists because something is wrong with you. You attract narcissists because so much is right with you.” – Rebecca Zung

“A narcissist wants the authority of a king while having the accountability of a toddler.” – Haryo Aswicahyono

“I didn’t leave because I stopped loving you. I left because the longer I stayed, the less I loved myself.” – Rupi Kaur