“The way to avoid loneliness and isolation is to look for positive attributes in everyone you meet and approach them in a positive way with compassion in your mind.” – The Dalai Lama, The Art of Happiness
“If you’re caught between hate and love, know that everything is between you and God anyway, and not between you and them.”
The term “Dalai Lama” for some, signifies that a spiritual monk from Tibet is a living Buddha but he stresses to say that just like any other, he’s just a human being. What exactly is our true nature as human beings? When a spiritual leader speaks of kindness and compassion, we often think he is expressing himself as a Buddhist, a Tibetan, a Dalai Lama. But actually he is speaking to us in human terms, and that kindness and compassion is our human nature. As human beings, we are all the same — made up of body and soul and we all wanted the same thing — happiness. How then can we achieve happiness if not all people’s hearts and intentions are pure? When someone has wronged us and caused us too much affliction and sadness, it is hard to think of kindness and compassion. He hurt me, why should I be kind to him? She’s not a true friend, why should I practice compassion? I’m not a fool and I’m not going to stand by while they all try to hurt me. And thus, the human being cliche follows, “I’m only human”, “To err is human, to forgive is divine.” They are not that good to me anyway, so why should I be good to them? “I’m not that much of a saint!” But is forgiveness only for all the saints and the divine? Every person we meet is our brother and sister and we are called to love one another as God has loved us. We cannot excuse ourselves that we’re only human to make mistakes. As humans, we always have a choice to love and show compassion, that makes us all have dominion over all other creatures. We are made to love and nurture our fellow. We must understand that even if your adversaries seem to be harming you, that is none of your business. Let God take care of everything. If you want happiness, follow his golden rule: “Do not do unto others what you don’t want others do unto you.” Only then will you realize in the end that their destructive activity will turn against them and it’s not your job to rein in your selfish impulse to retaliate. Notice how compassion gives you the greatest satisfaction. We may not always understand how it works but a spiritual journey is always a mystery. God’s love is a perfect manifestation of how we always survive. So what’s the real instinct of a human being? To err or to love? If you’re caught between hate and love, know that everything is between you and God anyway, and not between you and them.